This resonates with me a lot. I see this not only with young men but also older men, who in their loneliness are falling into rabbit holes. But the the larger issue is talking about this always comes with a defensive stance. For instance, chatting about it the other day with my wife, I kept caveating every other sentence with "of course, I don't mean to say men have it worse than women" and "of course, it's the patriarchy that may be the reason for many of these problems to begin with" etc. This made the whole discussion awkward.
Like a lot of guys, I used to be quite proud of my progressive views. I didn't want to be the one holding women back. And clearly a lot of them have flourished, and that's great, but a critical mass of them are floundering and blaming it on men to the point that I wouldn't call myself progressive anymore. It's not a label I can be proud of.
This resonates with me a lot. I see this not only with young men but also older men, who in their loneliness are falling into rabbit holes. But the the larger issue is talking about this always comes with a defensive stance. For instance, chatting about it the other day with my wife, I kept caveating every other sentence with "of course, I don't mean to say men have it worse than women" and "of course, it's the patriarchy that may be the reason for many of these problems to begin with" etc. This made the whole discussion awkward.
Like a lot of guys, I used to be quite proud of my progressive views. I didn't want to be the one holding women back. And clearly a lot of them have flourished, and that's great, but a critical mass of them are floundering and blaming it on men to the point that I wouldn't call myself progressive anymore. It's not a label I can be proud of.